When my daughter mentioned the possibility of moving back in, my mind didn’t go to space or schedules.
It went to a scale.
“You can come,” I told her,
“but your scale can’t.”
She laughed and said, “That’s dumb.”
And honestly… I understand why it sounds that way.
It’s just a scale.
But I’ve learned something about myself this year:
If there’s a scale in my house, I will use it.
Not casually.
Not occasionally.
I’ll start checking.
Thinking about it.
Letting it quietly shape how I feel about my day… and my body.
And I don’t want to live like that anymore.
At the beginning of this year, I threw my scale away.
Not because I had everything figured out,
but because I wanted a different way to live.
A quieter way.
A steadier way.
One that isn’t constantly rising and falling with a number.
So when I said the scale can’t come back in,
it wasn’t about controlling her.
She’s free to live however she chooses.
This is simply me being honest about what I need.
Because the truth is…
I’m not at a place where I can ignore it if it’s there.
And instead of trying to prove that I’m “strong enough,”
I’m choosing to protect my peace.
I can’t control what my daughter believes about her body.
But I can decide what has a place in this home.
This is a home that is kept with care.
A home that feels calm, steady, and intentional.
And I’m learning to extend that same care inward.
I’m learning that my worth doesn’t shift from one day to the next.
That it isn’t something to track or measure or manage.
That it’s already held—secure, steady, and unchanged.
Not because I’ve perfected anything…
but because God never asked me to.
So no, the scale isn’t moving back in.
Not because it’s bad.
But because I’m building a life where it’s no longer needed.
I’m still learning, day by day, what it means to live a life that isn’t measured—but simply, faithfully held.
The Scale Isn’t Moving Back In
When my daughter mentioned the possibility of moving back in, my mind didn’t go to space or schedules.It went to a scale.“You can come,” I told her,“but your scale can’t.”She…
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Keep to your values always!
Yes!!!!
Love it! Thanks for sharing. Your scale for you is like ice cream and cereal for me….They can’t come through my doors or I will eat them.
Oh girl…I have ice cream almost daily!